Have you ever done a HALT check?
HALT stands for Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired.
If you’re in recovery, you may already be familiar with this incredibly helpful acronym because it’s a tool to help prevent relapse.
But every single one of us could use HALT. It’s a simple way to help us stay aware of our needs, so that we can care for ourselves more effectively and create better outcomes during stressful or upsetting moments.
Here’s how it works:
When you’re feeling your stress levels rise or a funk coming on, HALT is a reminder to stop and assess your true needs, before you do something that you’ll regret.
If you’re in recovery, the thing you might regret doing is using again. If you’re not, than the thing you might regret doing is yelling at your dog, saying something unkind to a loved one (including yourself), eating a whole box of cookies, being impatient or judgmental with a client at work, writing an inappropriate email, or firing off a hurtful social media rant.
Before you behave in a way that feels out of control or breaches your integrity, ask yourself if you’re:
Hungry: When was the last time you ate? Was it something healthy? Is your blood sugar low? Are you dehydrated? Hungers come in all forms: Are you hungry to have your emotional needs met?
Angry: Are you feeling resentful or angry right now? Towards another person, a circumstance at work or in the world, at yourself?
Lonely: When was the last time you talked with a friend? A counselor? A supportive coworker? Are you feeling isolated? Disconnected?
Tired: Did you get enough sleep last night? Do you need a quick nap instead of a caffeine blast? Do you need a day off?
All of these things may be influencing your thoughts, feelings, and actions.
Rather than just pushing through or ignoring your needs, identify if any of these are true for you at the moment, then take action to address them. Have a snack, talk with a friend, go for a brisk walk, take a nap.
If you can’t do anything to address your needs in that moment, acknowledge that your real needs are not being met right now.
Offer yourself some kindness and compassion. Remain aware that being hungry, angry, lonely, or tired increases the likelihood that you will act in a way that you may regret later, so tread lightly.
Or it may be the reason why you just did something you already wish you hadn’t done. Don’t beat yourself up (that never changes anything). Pause to breathe deeply. Consider how you can stay aware of your needs and better care for yourself in the future, so that you don’t allow yourself to get too hungry, angry, lonely, or tired.
The next time you snap at a customer, get frustrated with your dogs, feel hopeless about something, or just feel “off”, take a moment to HALT and ask a truly self-compassionate question:
What do I really need in this moment and how can I give it to myself?